As you all know, I am into running. Actually I try run away from my own thoughts. When somebody runs 6 miles under 55 minutes it leaves all kind of pains that there is little room to think about bothersome stuff.While I was running today a guy came up to me and asked if it was OK he and his dog could join me.
I looked at him and smiled then told him I was listening to the radio. He asked me stop for second. I do not know why but I did. He looked at my eyes and told me: “There is nothing damn interesting in that damn radio” I was WOW. What an ass!!! He was sort of cute!!! If he could know how to handle rejection.
I kept thinking about him the rest of the time while I was running. What would cause somebody to say something like this to a stranger? REJECTION
I thought about the effect of rejection. Knowing how to handle rejection in any relationship is a key for development of it. Most problem of human comes from not knowing how to handle rejection. For example honey I cannot go with you shopping. Hun, I really do not want your boys to hang around house 24/7. I really do not want to get phone call from you between such and such hours. You would be supprised how many people fight over a simple rejection. {put your own story here or put on comments}
We all have our own way dealing with rejection. Learning how to handle rejection can be a useful tool for a person to understand her/himself. Rejection is hard by all means. It sucks when we stand head to head with rejection at the love department.
HOW DO U HANDLE REJECTION?
HOW DO U HANDLE REJECTION?
No_the_Game
11 comments:
Don't you think this mentality is broken in some manner? I mean consider that statement. "I try to run away from my own thoughts." It's a circular pattern.
Iam unhappy because I am fat, but I eat when I am unhappy. If you are always fat, you will always be eating...because you are always going to be happy. You're not unhappy that you are fat, you are unhappy with yourself. It's a lack of control.
The same really applies to yourself now doesn't it? You run away from your own thoughts, but your collective thoughts are what make you who you are. So you are running away from yourself. Running away from your self always leads in one of two directions, understanding of self to stop running; or suicide. See, it's not really the thoughts you're trying to escape. It's you.
The real question then would be, why are you running away from yourself? What can one hate about one's self so much that one would attempt to escape it incessantly. That speaks of a major misunderstanding somewhere.
Now, should you answer that question with something like "I'm not running away from myself, I am running away from my thoughts." Well, I suppose there is that, but what are you without your thoughts? Perhaps you would answer with, "It's more complicated than that." No, it's not really. It's as simplistic as saying, "I run from myself because I am unhappy with my current incarnation of issues, which I think speaks directly about me as a person."
Ideas ideas?
As far as rejection. Well, what is the nature of rejection? It is the prevention of something from happening. Handling rejection is a subjective matter I think. It depends on how you perceive the rejection in the first place. Depending on the situation I can find rejection to be anywhere from simple neutrality to teh creation of an enemy. It depends on the circumstance.
I've been rejected before by people. I once asked a girl if I could buy her cup of coffee, to which she replied no. Okay, she is rejecting my approach to become friendly. That's fair, she has every right to say, "I do not want at this time to have you as an addition to my life on any level." I'm comfortable with that.
I've been told by someone upon asking if she would move in with me, no. What that said to me was, "I will not move in with you because I am not prepared to take on the obligation of caring for you and thus you caring for me in that capacity, my life is not on a plane that I feel comfortable with that, despite our recent past and intense desire to remain together in all things." That is the first step to making an enemy, but in that particular scenario there was a very valid reason for that and I can not blame that person for it.
I've been rejected hundreds of times literally, it's not the rejection you should worry about, it's going at it again with enthusiasm. Each person is different.
To handle rejection I write poetry, spend time with people that I know cares about me or I isolate myself and get my thoughts together. Ofcourse it all depends on the level of rejection and my feelings towards being rejected.
the way i get thru rejection is listening to alanis' first album!
I handle rejection by talking it out to my best friend and my incredible sister and mother. I also write out my feelings. I even cry it out....I have to get it out so that I can go forward...
hey girl! thanks for your comment in artinmyworld.
I'll be honest.
I'm 15 and I have no freakin iDEa what's up with this rejection thing.( i suppose i'll know soon enough though...EVERyone says so...)
Right now life is simple and clean...but society is alREAdy trying to suck me in...exams and stuff u know...
so hows this for rejection? not being able to pursue your dreams because you fail a math paper.
Xo
anyway, depressing situations either get bloggerized(?) or poetified(??) or replaced by the beauty of the things around me i can capture on camera.
So, I see, that you are very pretty, I like that look you got.
Rejection is a part of life, disipline & Perseverance is tha essence.
Prata
I do not think mentality is broken. What rocks the boat? In my case that rocks my boat. So I go for it.
Georgia Peach
I am so honored you left a message for me. U look absolutely cute and flower on your hair makes you look angle. DO not change you pic pls {sad face}
Storm
Is this post my lucky/happy post? Welcome to my world Jiger!!! (means sweaty in my native lingo)Here are flowers on your way for the next visitation @-<<--<<
Cane
I also listen music and drink :((
Ms Rose
I used to cry but cannot cry anymore. I trained myself to be a BIG gal now. I just put my shoes on and RUN BABY RUN. I got lost in the Forest park this SAT. :(( Was not fun because it was almost 6:30 pm. U know what ppl say about that park.
Foolosopher
I agree you r young but rejection is something we see daily base. U might not experience love rejection yet but be prepared. Because u cannot be accepted by everybody. I know those stupid requirements in academia. They all suck :)
Sdiva
We all develop our own way to handle things in most cases. I am glad music helps. There some type of music I will not listen if I was hurt :)
Bossmack
I am jumping up and down BOSS Like me Hurraayyyy. U r shmarty u know that, right? ;) I am missing pic on ur blog. Show some love time to time. U r welcome to my crazy world ;)
The fact that you see nothing wrong with running away from yourself..seems to speak of an ill-explored logic.
Or perhaps you are not being specific enough about what you mean is not broken. Please clarify that for me, otherwise I see an extreme flaw in functionality here.
Prata
Thank for you all your postings. My approach to running might be illogical but do we always do logical things. Most of the time we do things that works for us. I am not denying it is bad or good. But people have other choices when they are troubled. Drinking, smoking, drugs all that. So I should be blessed I am not inclined those stuff. I do something constructive , run. Running is good for you :D
Thank you. Your pretty as well. :)
I wasn't speaking about the running part. I suppose it's not worth the effort though.
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