Moody Blue

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ARE YOU IN THE FULL MOOD?

Recently, I happened to be driving and listening to the radio. The man in the radio was talking about relationships and he broke people in relationships down into two types:

The Moody – or more plainly put, people whose emotions rapidly run hot or cold.

The Non-Moody – People whose emotions do not often fluctuate far and quick.

His main point was that he never really saw two people get together as mates who were “Moody”. He said that he more often than not saw one partner that was Moody, and another who was not. Although, he did quality his thinking by saying he occasionally saw a couple with two partners who were not Moody.

I partially agree with the guy’s point of view, but I would quality it by saying this: it’s not that two Moody people don’t get together all the time, I see it constantly, they just don’t seem to stay together because neither one of them can put up with the other person’s shit.

How does this pertain to men and women’s misunderstandings of each other?

Well… It seems to me that we all have moods. I think that is pretty much a given. They go up and down, here and there. We have to be compassionate in our dealings with our mates and mindful of their feelings, all the while being careful to also be compassionate enough to share painful truths. And all at the same time we have our own moods and feelings to deal with. I suppose that’s why a functioning relationship doesn’t “just happen”.

In my experience, there are different levels of moodiness. Obviously, the worst is the kind that leads someone to fly off the handle irrationally and act crazy. There’s no excuse for that, and I would suggest to anyone that you don’t even attempt to deal with someone like that.

But truth be told, it’s the subtle mood swings/shifts that can make a relationship hard to deal with. Over time, we can let the small things that irritate us about our partner manifest into a gigantic monster. To draw a human parallel, it’s probably close to drinking diluted Drain-O for an extended period of time… you can’t keep that kind of mess up for long, even if it doesn’t poison you immediately.

I wish I had a cure for Moodiness, but I don’t. Although, the best remedy seems to be listening. Tender issues and feelings require tender touches and attention. If your partner is unreasonable or unwilling to listen there are some problems. Those problems may be:

1. You can’t communicate the issues, so you dance around it.
2. You play the ever-favorite teenage “figure it out” game.
3. You use words to express emotion, rather than convey ideas.
4. You’re more interested in spouting off a point, rather than presenting an issue.
5. … or maybe, just maybe… you’re dealing with an ass (that’s possible too).

Either way, this is a difficult issue to tackle. I’m going to think about this one some more. I have a lot of say about how mood swings affect a relationship.

My question is this: Do you think Moody people avoid other Moody people? And if so, why do you think that is?

Peace & Love from us Both

nosthegametoo & No_the_game