Note: Although we don’t seem to be blogging all that often anymore, we miss all of our readers. Thank you all for your very different perspectives.
I think everyone can agree that people need people. It’s just an unavoidable fact of life. For those of us fortunate enough to have the vast majority of our family members and loved ones still with us, it’s important to remember to thank them while they are still around; sending beautiful memorials and flowers are nice when someone passes, but they really don’t need them.
But are there times when those around us are really crushing us by standing on our shoulders?? I’m sure most of us have experienced this at one time or the other. Sometimes, even though we love them dearly and with our entire hearts, our shoulders may not be broad enough to handle the weight of those we support.
How does this pertain to men and women’s misunderstandings of each other?
Well… what comes to mind is Economics, which is the study of how resources are allocated. Not unlike any other resource, the life and energy that we expend are finite. Some of us have more than others, but no matter what, there is just so much of us to go around.
Now, we all need assistance. The level of the assistance we may need varies considerably depending on the person. For example, ever had that family member or friend who has no concept of self-sufficiency and is always in need of a crutch?? It’s daunting.
Although complete independence from others is an allusion, complete dependence is not. At some level we are all dependent on something; maybe a job… maybe an investment… maybe an emotional support… maybe a lover… maybe a sympathetic ear… or so on.
But what happens when someone draws from the well one too many times??
Do you think it has the unintended consequence of breeding resentment against someone special to you???
Or maybe we just have to shut up and take it. But there's definately something unsettling about that prospect.
Peace and Love,